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Good Grief!

After burying both of my parents and getting a divorce in two and a half years, I pretty much am in constant state of grief.  So grief is something I understand, I thought. What I have learned is that you just have to feel it, it is the only way to get thru it.  It has made me a way stronger person, and it has made me have to face the worst.  I have lost friends even in the process.

Who would think that friends would bail on you at critical moments, but it happens. Maybe they needed to clear out and let new ones come in with new ideas, new experiences, new doors that open.

So now the universe is propelling me to the future, and unlike before, I am so strong now, I can take just about anything.  I just put My Father to rest in New York and come back to everything selling.  The two houses with my ex husband and the house I've been living in, renting all sold in one month.  I am purchasing a house now myself in Big Bear, first because It was all I could afford and second, because I've aways liked it up there. 

Do I live there?  Who knows.  If I would've looked back 2 years ago, I would've never believed I would be here.  So its an option always.

Thats the difference between people, there are those who see options and opportunities and then there are those who don't!  My Father never saw options, he never found a way to go to Hawaii, or see Ukraine.  He couldn't see past the option of no money!  Its not money, its seeing the opportunity that makes some people different and happier.

I have a friend who committed suicide this year because he couldn't see a way out of a bad marriage.   He had options, they were just hard options, like losing your house or having to get a job.  He saw no options, its sad. 

If I could counsel anyone during grief I would say this- As I look back, there are always options and I would've been nicer and more patient to everyone, cause you can't get the time back after they've passed.  

I treat everyday like its my last now, cause it might be.  And I have the option to feel my grief.  What is the other option?  Not to love at all, then you'll never get hurt. 

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