A University of Michgan study reveals sexting is not linked to risky sex behaviors or psychological problems in 18-24 year olds. While this is great news for mental and sexual health of teenagers and twenty-somethings it says nothing about those of us in our dirty thirties! A texting phenomenon I’ve unfortunately been exposed to may well have momentarily damaged me psychologically. Here’s what happened:
I met a guy who got my number and started with the texts around 11pm Sunday. After a solid hour of flirting back-and-forth he started getting all sexy with me but still hadn’t set a time and place for a first date. By midnight he was extremely ‘descriptive’ about himself in the texts and ‘curious’ about me, however, it was clear he wasn’t after a date or a late night booty call.
There was obviously no pending pay off for this single gal and severe boredom was setting in so I flatly texted “call me” to find out what was going on.
Seconds later he was whispering “Hey, I can’t talk… my fiance’s home.” Yep, there it is. A fiancé! The guy didn’t want to date me or even smash out a booty call he just wanted a little sexting action on the sly to make himself feel in the game while still not technically cheating on his woman.
Sexting for dirty thirties - the new guilt free non-affair.