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Single in Studio City: Cooking Up the Perfect Partner

What if you could concoct your fantasy man/woman? Imagine having the ability to change him/her at random, according to your every whim and fancy.

This concept is explored in the recent movie, Ruby Sparks, starring real life couple Zoe Kazan and Paul Dano. 

Adhering to a similar scenario, your fabricated paramour would succumb to your instant command, amenable to whatever wish you invoke. You’d never have to worry they’d cheat on you, unless it was your preference.

They’d fawn over you day and night, in line with your hankering. They’d aim to please and satisfy you anyway, anyhow, anytime, whenever and wherever the spirit moved you. They’d never tell you no, unless you programmed them to do so.

It would be possible to transform their body to suit your desires, creating a model of the ideal prince/princess charming you crave. That would include physical features from head to toe as well as personality traits, e.g. shy, gregarious, smart, funny, sexy, sensual.

Your invention, if you chose, wouldn’t feel angry, sad, scared, frustrated, irritated, disappointed, or guilty. He/she could presumably be happy and optimistic, laughing and smiling, no matter what you did or didn’t do, said or didn’t say.

You could prevent them from pining for anyone else or leaving your side 24/7. If you wanted space, you’d send them away for as long as you implored.

This may sound exciting and fulfilling at first glance but in reality would it be gratifying and rewarding? Ponder whether perhaps it might be boring to have a robot-like person following you around like a puppy dog, wagging their tail into the wee hours.

It could conceivably result in a lonely existence, albeit you’re a pair, as essentially, there’s only a single contributor. Would you miss the bliss of interacting with someone who has a mind of their own, with whom you could reflect ideas off of?

Although occasionally difficult to accept, do you covet constructive criticism from a trustworthy mate, who has your back and knows you profoundly and deeply? What about the benefits of an intimate union with an equal who’s dedicated to facilitating your evolvement for your highest good?

When you’re not being called on your behavior, you don’t have to be responsible for your conduct, especially if it’s unloving, uncaring, and unkind. Yet isn’t that the bonus and blessing of involvement in a meaningful connection, i.e. discovering and practicing how to treat others with compassion, gentleness, humanity, and benevolence?

Consider the concept that what bothers you the most about a close confidante is exactly the area you need to discern in your personal makeup. When one finger is pointed towards another, three are pointed back at you.  

Recollect that if your purpose is to heal internal issues, e.g. childhood abandonment traumas, jealousy, worthlessness, a committed relationship is a significant step towards that goal.

Love brings up everything unlike itself. In fact, it frequently opens up a Pandora’s box of negative aspects that may have been lying dormant for years.

Take into account the power of mistakes that help you gain insight and wisdom. Without them, how would you learn the invaluable lessons available through trial and error and lifting yourself up after falling down?

Reflect on the beauty of flaws that make individuals unique. Without them, would you be allured, captivated, and fascinated by the eccentricities, quirkiness, exceptional, and distinctive qualities you quickly grow to adore, and admire?

Even if you could devise a superlative boyfriend/girlfriend, you’d still be the constant. Hence, if you haven’t done the internal work, your psychological wiring would once again emerge to sabotage the dream.

Which brings me to the premise, are we meant to be monogamous? Is there such a thing as “happily ever after?” Is it advantageous to hook up for life or are there seemingly insurmountable drawbacks, making casual sex the more attractive proposition?

Is lovemaking for fun and for free plausible in the 21st century with the onslaught of STD’s? How do you keep emotions from the equation? Spontaneous intercourse can be electrifying and exhilarating, especially when you don’t have to worry about future ramifications.

However, very few duos can carry off this feat for extended periods, since one party typically becomes more invested than the other. When sentiments don’t remain mutual, unrequited feelings make the situation complicated, causing expectations and mandates. 

To successfully pull off an informal romantic tie without demands, requires both participants to be extremely independent, mature, forthcoming, self-confident, and secure within themselves. Inevitably, either member may develop yearnings that destroy the original foundation of uninhibited and unrestricted rapture and ecstasy.

Singles Slogan for the Week: Remember why the grass always looks greener on the other side...because they have more shit.

Spend this coming Friday evening, August 24th, 9pm-1am, rocking out to the music of Little Fox Records’ Donald Dean Band, at Sportsmen’s Lodge new River Rock Lounge. No cover charge, late night bar menu, 10pm-12 M. Eat, dance, drink, and mingle.

On Saturday, August 25th, 12N-5p, at the W Los Angeles, 930 Hilgard Avenue, Westwood, 90024, attend the 2nd Annual Summer Splash Pool Party. Join Renee Simlak Productions, ThreeDayRule (an online dating site), and AtThePool, for the hottest pool party of 2012.

Guests will enjoy refreshing drink and food specials (including grilling stations), cool cabanas, and music. Get your tickets now as they sell out! Cost is $15 in advance, $20 at the door. A portion of proceeds is donated to the American Cancer Society. RSVP: HTTP://WSUMMERSPLASH.EVENTBRITE.COM

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Barbara Krause May 21, 2013 at 07:58 pm
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John Walker May 21, 2013 at 05:14 pm
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Barbara Krause May 21, 2013 at 09:06 am
Somewhat presumptuous this early on Voting Day.
David Pearlberg December 21, 2012 at 11:00 pm
I attended N.H.H.S. in the mid-seventies. Mr. Reeves and Mr. Moelter were two of my favorites.Read More Loved Mr. McLeroy for Sociology.
Kim Phillips-Clark December 19, 2012 at 07:25 pm
great article Mary! Ms. Korney, she sometimes scared me to death! But always around christmas IRead More think of her and pronounce my letters clearly at the end of a word when I sing. I can still remember the song I had to sing for my final, "If ever I would leave you..." She taught me a lot. I agree with everything you said about Mr. Reeves. I had Mr. Pesin for Algebra, he did nothing to help further my math skills. The biggest flirt around, ick. We had a girl in school at the time that flirted her way to an A and hardly ever went to class. Go figure!! I also thought quite highly of Ms. Requiam. Glad she's still around.
Mary McGrath December 18, 2012 at 07:59 pm
Oh, that's so funny Suzanne....what a great story!
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Cheyenne Chasen March 25, 2013 at 01:00 pm
Love seeing the new entries each and every week! Keep it up!
Miki Henderson February 12, 2013 at 02:28 pm
I don't get the kids' obsession with this Minecraft but I'll send some photos of them, or get themRead More to post screenshots. It's all so fuzzy to me
Alex Daniels May 22, 2013 at 12:18 am
glad you lost Wendy...not even your mafia DWP bedfellows could push you through..now go away...
Alex Daniels May 21, 2013 at 09:05 pm
I also notice Wendy Gruel has no platform, except taking money from special interest (most notablyRead More her puppet masters at the DWP) and having one of the most negative campaigns I've ever seen......no thanks, negative Wendy, fool me once.....Eric is our next Mayor....
Jo Perry May 20, 2013 at 08:27 pm
The signs are everywhere! Please vote for Wendy, Nora. He is also running ads about Wendy GreuelRead More that he knows are outright lies.
Mike Szymanski (Editor) May 19, 2013 at 02:21 pm
She has received a lot of flak about making a premature decision...I hope someone from OvarianRead More Cancer or the community weighs in on this and gives their thoughts in a blog! Thanks...just click the START BLOGGING button below! THANKS!
Mike Szymanski (Editor) May 17, 2013 at 09:34 am
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Irene DeBlasio May 17, 2013 at 04:09 pm
@MikeSzymanski I must admit that I haven't been able to detect a new format. Where is the format?Read More Who designed this? All I can tell is that there is a beautiful shot of trees -- perfect! Under that banner all hell breaks lose and you can't tell what you're looking it. There might be a huge blowup of Mr. Walker or a too big notice of something official-looking -- possibly an agenda. I have not been able to navigate through all the stuff. Lots of white space on either side which gives me impression that we're tailoring a community paper more toward an iphone or smart phone (or a tablet). Maybe I need a GPS to find a good list of contents here. In the meantime, it's not very attractive (exception for the banner trees photo) nor entertaining and not very informative. Scotty Reston, where are you now that we need you?
A. May 16, 2013 at 10:19 pm
the picture selected is nice and it well suits the page. it would be nice to see the full pic. tooRead More bad so much of it is blocked from the top portion of the content....any chance of seeing the full picture and starting the content beneath it?
Barbara Krause May 17, 2013 at 08:00 am
I find this very disconcerting. Mel Randall who is on the Land Use Committee was asked to submit hisRead More name. We assumed qualifications would be checked and then those best suited would be chosen. Two entries of the same name is in itself so bad makes me feel that all of this should be redone.
Hugh May 16, 2013 at 07:50 am
I was at the meeting last night and saw all I need to see on how our neighborhood council work. TheyRead More had a drawing for the grievance panel. WHAT A SHAM!! They drew 1 guys name twice and rather than stop the proceedings and make sure that the names in the hat were legitimate and no other duplicates exist and redo the drawing, they just drew another name. Now it probably was just a fluke but the appearance of a rigged drawing is there and it taints the whole council and it proceedings. It is very apparent why we need a grievance panel in the first place. When the appearance of corruption exists at the lowest levels of our democratic process it is no wonder that the whole system is collapsing before our eyes. Our neighborhood council should hang their heads in shame!