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'I Can’t Get No (Sexual) Satisfaction'

Why is it difficult for many couples to talk candidly and explicitly about sex? Is it still the forbidden language in our society? Are Americans far behind the Europeans as they continue to consider such topics taboo?

Do you agree that the representatives in Michigan should’ve been penalized due to their “Vaginagate” utterings? Do you avoid seeing “The Vagina Monologues,” even though it’s produced in your neighborhood every year?

How do you reconcile that the erotic novel “Fifty Shades of Grey,” about BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism) was the fastest selling paperback of all time, surpassing the Harry Potter series?    

Would you be abhorred if your partner brought up the subject of swinger’s parties, vibrators, dildos, nudist resorts? Do words that refer to private parts and/or sexual ecstasy make you cringe, e.g. penis, clitoris, masturbation, lubrication, ejaculation, fellatio, cunnilingus?

Are you comfortable conversing with your significant other about what pleases you? Do you often ‘fake’ an orgasm to circumvent revealing what really turns you on?

Do you expect your sweetheart to intuitively comprehend what excites you, and then feel disappointed when you’re left dissatisfied?

Are you repulsed by the thought of having to describe in detail to your darling how to best help you achieve an orgasm? Do you sidestep foreplay instead of choosing to communicate your specific needs and desires, hoping to simply get the obligatory act over with?

It’s optimum to have these discussions at a designated occasion, rather than in the heat of the moment, where passion prevails. If men/women weren’t afraid to let their lovers in on secret fantasies and yearnings, there’d probably be less divorce and broken romances.

Does your sexual prowess improve when you’re in a monogamous relationship? Numerous complain they have reduced intercourse following the establishment of a commitment. However, the reverse seems to hold true in a majority of cases.

The more you know and trust your beloved, the easier it is to give of your body, soul, mind, and spirit, essential elements to potent climaxing and sensual euphoria. The deeper the attachment, the more heightened the carnal connection. Hence, attaining peak levels of physical bliss is a natural result. 

It’s highly unlikely you’ll reach these points in the course of quick casual encounters, superficial dalliances, meaningless one night stands, where the parties are typically new acquaintances.

Are there huge differences in the way males and females perceive lovemaking? Some believe women have a chemical reaction during coitus and fall in love immediately owing to an emotional tie.

For men, on the contrary, copulation is habitually just physical gratification at first. Psychological bonding takes place after starting to sincerely and profoundly care about their mate through intimacy (in-to-me-see).

Perhaps that’s the reason a lot of women hold off on sleeping with their intended. They’re aware of developing a primal, intense link and aren’t prepared for that kind of involvement.

Men tend to dominate by assuming the position on top, while women remain submissive on the bottom. Can it work if roles are switched, i.e. the woman aggressive, the man passive?

An ideal match transpires when power shifts interchangeably in various areas. She may be forceful in the bedroom while he controls childrearing. Conversely, he might govern in the sack, while she manages finances.   

Why is sexual contentment and delight the last item dealt with when it’s usually a priority in both genders’ psyches? Can you imagine a world where sexual wishes and longings were dispensed with right from the beginning?

In lieu of pretending and beating around the bush, pairs would discover if they’re a duo made in heaven at the outset. They could cut to the chase and learn whether they’re compatible sexually, in the same way they entertain moral, ethical, political, social, family, religious views.

Wouldn’t it be nice to identify preferences re: touching, clitoral vs. vaginal stimulation, oral sex, arousal, hand jobs, etc?

Singles Slogan for the Week: I deserve sexual pleasure. I’m willing to ask for what I covet. I’m ready to indulge in fulfilling fantasies to my heart’s hankering.

Spice up your sex life grab your precious and attend a free workshop July 11th from 8-10pm on the Art of Oral Sex: Fellatio with Catherine Toyooka at The Pleasure Chest 7733 Santa Monica Blvd., West Hollywood, 90046.

Toyooka will tackle the biggest myth surrounding oral sex and convey how to overcome hangups keeping you from true enjoyment. Chock full of educational information covering male excitement and anatomy, Catherine teaches three top techniques for making your companion moan in rapture. 

A fun interactive activity open to everyone, you're welcome to bring your own cucumber to practice on. The Pleasure Chest does not offer advance registration or reserved seating. Attendance is on a first come, first served basis. Early arrival is recommended to secure your spot! 

Live music and theatre are perfect aphrodisiacs! A phenomenal jazz event, where you may meet Mr./Ms. Right, is happening on Wednesday, July 11th, 7-10pm, at Robano’s, 10057 Riverside Dr. in Toluca Lake. Studio City’s sultry vocalist, Laura Pursell, will appear with her dad, acclaimed pianist Bill Pursell.

Bill played and recorded with the incomparable Patsy Cline (on the "Sweet Dreams" sessions), Chet Atkins, Marty Robbins, Johnny Cash ("Ring of Fire"), and Bob Dylan ("Nashville Skyline" album), to name a few. Pursell is infamous for his 1963 hit record, "Our Winter Love".

Accompanied by guitar greats Barry Zweig and Ron Anthony, and renowned bassist Adam Cohen returning from his worldwide tour with Englebert Humperdinck, this is going to be a truly awesome evening, a spectacular gig. No cover, full menu and bar.

Transport the man/woman of your dreams, a date, or your bff to Neil LaBute’s compilation of mini plays entitled “Short Ends,” featuring Studio City’s Maxie Solters in the stage premiere of “Sexting” (originally a 2010 short film starring Julia Stiles).  

Presented at the Open Fist Theatre, 6209 Santa Monica Blvd., just east of Vine in Hollywood, “Short Ends” explores infidelity, sexuality, race, class and loss, with La Bute’s signature taut and affecting prose. Laugh, wince, relate and ponder. Experience quintessential Neil LaBute. 

Directed by Amanda Weier, “Short Ends” is part of Open Fist Theatre Company’s Fourth Annual First Look Festival, Ten Weeks of New Plays and Music.

Opening weekend performances are Thursday-Saturday, July 12-14 at 8pm and Sunday July 15 at 2pm. Additional shows are Sundays July 22 and 29 at 2pm Saturday, July 28 at 8pm and Saturday August 4 at 2pm and 8pm. Tickets are available at www.openfist.org or (323)882-6912.

Finally, for sexy, smooth singing from Latin Jazz sensation, Karina Corradini, and her amazing quartet of LA’s superbly talented maestros: Mahesh Balasooriya, Piano; Zane Musa, tenor sax; Rene Camacho, bass; Aaron Serfaty drums, join me at the Oyster House on Saturday, July 14, 10pm-12 midnight.

This unique gathering of A List musicians is sure to astonish you and sweep you off your feet! Karina will croon standard jazz, Brazilian jazz, Latin boleros, and songs from her upcoming CD, “Right Here Right Now.” No Cover Charge! Scrumptious seafood, reasonably priced. Kitchen closes at 11pm.

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