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Should Auld Acquaintance Be Forgot?

In contemplating contacting former flames, consider your incentive. Do you want to drum up a new romance? Is making amends for past actions your main motivation?

Are you seeking to return to a place where things were simpler and easier? Do you yearn to find out what really happened? Are you hoping to rekindle old juices? Do you desire to finally get closure? Are you curious to see if there’s still magnetism?

I used to think reconnecting with exes was a fruitless endeavor. After a pleasant experience with a college sweetheart, however, I’ve had a change of tune. I was delightfully surprised during this recent enlightening encounter.

Unbeknownst to me, my previous beau had been carrying around remorse for over twenty years about the way he had once treated me. I didn’t remember the scenario, yet I could tell by his demeanor that he had a heavy weight and needed to unload.

Not only did he have a chance to apologize, but I received the gift of realizing how significant I had been to him. The fact that I had an intense impact on his life behooved me. I figured he had married and moved on, without me making any dent whatsoever in his emotional psyche. 

Quite the contrary was the upshot. He was heartsick and pained about why I refused to legitimize the relationship, when he asked for my hand in marriage. 

I was unprepared for such deep, profound, meaningful questions and frankly, speechless. I could merely conjure up the notion that I wasn’t mature or confident enough at the time to have recognized what I coveted. 

Reluctantly, I divulged the surreptitious demons that have ruled my prior trysts, e.g. the foolish fickle little girl “that didn’t want him when he wanted me,” and the Groucho Marx idea that “I wouldn’t want to be a member of any club that would have me.” I felt pangs of regret, wishing I had taken him up on his proposal to put a ring on my finger.

Viewing him in a completely different light, i.e. as the dedicated, committed, loyal, caring, affectionate, intelligent, insightful, human being I witnessed, I wondered why I had been blind and not noticed these attributes earlier? Was I uninterested in these virtuous aspects and primarily preoccupied with outer appearances, superficialities, and material qualities?

I fantasized he would leave his wife and daughter, and come running to me, pining as he did before. I imagined we might run away and embrace a Hollywood ending, complete with the passionate, final frame movie kiss. 

Since we had attended the Academy Awards while we were an item, this was apropos in more ways than one. He brought to the visit the original program from the Oscars that he had saved. In addition, he arrived with treasured photos of the two of us.

This prompted me to locate other pictures I had kept, whereupon, he requested copies. I was so touched and moved by his sincerity and heartfelt confessions. His visit was not only inspirational, but a blessing and eye opening rendezvous.

As a consequence of this thought provoking tete a tete, I’ve altered my opinion as to the benefits a reunion may produce.

I’m not recommending digging up every long lost lover. Go with your gut, your intuition. Let the pure light within you guide you. Be ready to welcome whatever message the universe has in store. 

There are rare cases in which couples, separated for extended periods, subsequently reunite and live happily ever after. Stay flexible and receptive to a myriad of avenues.

I continue to espouse the concept: ‘If you’re supposed to be with someone, no matter what you do or don’t do, or say or don’t say, you’ll be together.’

Similarly: ‘If you’re not supposed to be with that person, no matter what you say or don’t say, or do or don’t do, you won’t remain a duo.’

In any event, it’s always best not to burn bridges in bonds you’ve established, including personal and professional partnerships. A wise sage once told me, “You meet the same people going up as you do coming down.”

You never know when you might converge with a romantic attraction in the future. Therefore, it’s advantageous to check your manners at the door and conduct yourself respectfully towards everyone in your path. Whether or not a guy/gal is your perfect match, they deserve to be admired and appreciated as the precious individual they are.  

If your latest prospect doesn’t turn out to be Mr./Ms. Right, perhaps they will hook you up with a potential mate who’s more compatible. Your ideal catch could be their bff, sibling, relative, associate, co-worker, or neighbor.   

We coincide with men and women for a purpose that may or may not immediately be ascertainable. When you behave with goodwill towards all, you’re guaranteed to obtain optimum associations. Among each link you cherish, the likelihood for magic and enchantment exists.

Start the New Year surrounding yourself with like minded single souls at a Plenty of Fix bash on Saturday January 5th from 8-11:30pm at the Woodland Hills Hilton Hotel, 6360 Canoga Avenue Woodland Hills CA 91367. Cost is $7 cash at the door. An awesome DJ will provide amazing sounds, excellent for being swept off your feet from the dance floor.

There is free parking at the several mall lots nearby, where stores are closed. The Hilton is offering a $6.00 coupon, good at the Hotel Self Parking lot.

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