Are you afraid to talk on the phone, restricting communication to back and forth onsite messages? Do you fit in the category professing anxiety about speaking until numerous emails have been exchanged? What’s the fear and what’s sufficient time for your trepidation to diminish?
How can you assess motives, manners, and conduct by continuing to solely engage in surreptitious banter on the internet?
Wouldn’t it be better to cut to the chase and ascertain what you’re up against, sooner than later? Why withhold pertinent data that will appear in the wash?
Is quizzing a moot point in the 21st Century where privacy is minimal, everyone’s an open book, and cyberspace allows for easy retrieval of personal information? A click of your mouse can reveal phone numbers, addresses, occupations, hobbies.
Dating has changed significantly in the past ten years. People don’t call a possible dearest to ask them out. Instead, they Text, Facebook, or Tweet. There aren’t many answering machine messages or sweet nothings whispered via voice mail. Telephones are strictly for emergencies.
A majority of daters are already familiar with plenty about their potential mate, before ever meeting. In fact, conversing is becoming passé. Face to face dialogue is the last item on the list. No wonder countless questioning is interpreted as investigation.
Consider a ceiling of 20 interrogatories. Afterwards, as a substitute for the hot seat scenario, proceed with being in the moment. Inquiring about the past and/or the future won’t indicate the most fundamental area, i.e. how you relate in the here and now.
The mystery that used to act as an aphrodisiac is quickly fading. The thrill and sexiness of not telling everything in preliminary tete a tetes is nearly obsolete. The allure and appeal of winning someone over is outmoded, destroying the charm and fascination that was once a turn on.
With the advent of abundant social networking, the days of riveting contact based on intrigue are numbered. The latest enterprise, Viddy, which has amassed 38 million users since its launch 16 months ago, may provide the perfect opportunity to stumble across a meaningful correlation.
Limited to 15 seconds, users shoot short video snippets known as “viddy” and upload them from their iPhones and other mobile devices for followers to watch. This could develop into the ideal replacement for previous video dating companies such as Great Expectations.
Query however, whether 15 seconds, 15 minutes, or 15 hours is enough to sense the likelihood a serious romantic involvement might materialize. Nothing short of four seasons can accomplish that goal.
Wasting precious periods without one-on-one engagements, is counterproductive to establishing a genuine bond. It’s vital to be in your intended’s presence in order to experience the presents of a substantial association.
You can’t fathom character traits, e.g. reliability, simply by asking. Actions speak louder than words. Therefore, it’s crucial to share occasions and discover if your potential partner arrives promptly, can be counted on to stick to promises, remembers what you’ve verbalized, respects your preferences, hopes, and dreams.
Many bachelors/bachelorettes grumble when given the third degree regarding money matters. Ponder labeling a spade a spade. If you seek financial security, acknowledge it. Don’t pretend to care about the kind of car they drive, the size of their home, their salary. You may as well just request a copy of their tax returns.
Since 2001, the depression has substantially influenced relationships. Studies have shown this added stress can make even unwavering commitments very rocky, to say the least.
With the negative economic situation at hand, there’s not only a strain on existing hookups, but it’s increasingly difficult to attain new alliances. In obtaining a permanent tie, there’s understandably extra pressure to search for pecuniary stability.
This can be a delicate subject for men, particularly due to the erosion of their esteem when unsuccessful on the job or not bringing home enough bacon. Traditionally, a guy’s entire image has been built around ‘show me the money.’ Consequently, they often won’t feel enticing to the opposite sex when their careers are crashing.
Currently, similar issues affect women, who also may believe they’re less desirable when not thriving professionally or fending for themselves.
That’s why it’s adamant you shift the focus to what true prosperity consists of, i.e. the measure of your wealth in friendships and how you treat those in your circle. There’s no treasure or fortune more valuable than support, camaraderie, affection, warmth, and tenderness.
What price is character worth? What rate do you afford integrity, honesty, faithfulness? How much merit do you assign assets entailing moral fiber?
Relevant gauges are behaviors towards exes, children, relatives, coworkers, neighbors, acquaintances. You’re as rich as you love and are loved.
Gentlemen protest ladies are primarily concerned with their bank accounts, grilling them repeatedly about fiscal status and the amount of green they earn.
Contemplate evaluating merit by probing into affairs of the heart, i.e. who adores, admires, and appreciates them, whom do they adore, admire, and appreciate?
Singles Slogan for the Week: Not finding what you’re looking for doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.
Take your paramour on a movie excursion to Hope Springs, starring Meryl Streep, Tommy Lee Jones, and Steve Carell. An exciting comedy from the director of “The Devil Wears Prada,” the tagline reads, “Sometimes to keep the magic you need to learn a few tricks.”
There’s a corresponding instruction manual to refresh the spark that caused you to fall for your main squeeze in the first instance. It designates basic skills necessary to surviving the monogamy syndrome…preventing boredom and promoting bliss.
On Monday, Aug. 13 starting at 10 p.m. at the , rekindle the spirit with your sweetie or magnetize a new-fangled babe, while listening to the sizzling hot Latin beat of jazz guitarist, Mark Towns and his gathering of master musicians: Rufus Philpot, bass; Cedric Leonardi, drums; Ronnie Gutierrez, congas; Munyungo Jackson, percussion. No cover.
Then on Tuesday, Aug. 14, from 9 p.m. to midnight, dance your bootie off to vocalist Cathy Segal Garcia and her swingin’ band, including Dave Moscoe, Mat Gordy, and Alan Walker, at Joe’s American Bar and Grill, 4311 Magnolia Ave., Burbank between Cahuenga and Pass. Come solo, with your bff, or an imminent babe. No cover.