Wikipedia defines spring fever as “an increase in energy, vitality and particularly sexual appetite.” Scientists explain this phenomenon by the fact that our bodies produce extra testosterone, estrogen, and serotonin, “the happiness hormone,” due to longer days and additional sunlight.
Anthropologists suggest the concept of spring fever has an evolutionary source. They assert that since ancient humans spent the winter in a state of hibernation, when spring came around, they were geared up to engage in intense hunting, gathering, and procreating.
It’s no surprise people are smitten during this season, seemingly overtaken by a force stronger than imagined. Many act and speak differently, altering their voices, demeanor, and body language when in the company of a prospective mate. They may become speechless, wobbly on their feet, unable to focus. They often experience sleepless nights, loss of hunger.
When brain activity of those who are bit with the love bug is measured, researchers report that certain chemicals are excreted. The following four compounds play a huge role in this wacky wonder called love.
Dopamine is released during pleasurable events. One way to boost levels and your chances of falling in love is to share exhilarating adventures together, e.g. hot air ballooning, snowboarding, hooking up in unorthodox situations. Doing something novel with your sweetheart arouses the same part of the brain that lights up when you’re love-struck.
That’s probably why participants on the reality shows, The Bachelor and Bachelorette quickly become enamored. They’re whisked off to exotic settings such as Bali, partaking in candlelit dinners on the ocean, or hang gliding in the Swiss Alps.
Dopamine is the reason you feel addicted when you’re head over heels, thus the term “crazy in love.” It promotes attachment to your intended. Dopamine is also emitted during breastfeeding, hence the irreplaceable bonding between mother and child.
There is healthy and unhealthy dependence. If you profess you can’t live without someone, it’s an endearing thought. But when taken literally, i.e. you want to die if you can’t have him/her, there’s a deeper problem. In that case, outside help is essential to heal, so you can obtain a successful thriving union based on interdependence, rather than codependency.
Norepinephrine is a stimulant giving you vim and vigor, keeping you up late at night ruminating over the object of your affections. You’re on cloud nine, walking around in a daze of desire, fueled up. Your heart is on fire, fluttering, skipping a beat.
Serotonin creates a sense of calm. In the preliminary periods of fancy and fondness, the brain produces lower levels. Therefore, anxiety may be amplified and fears heightened regarding the possibility of losing the man/woman you covet.
Oxytocin furthers the trust between couples. It’s discharged in both men and women after having sex. Without it, you could just have intercourse and not care in the morning. Oxytocin causes that special fusion and link to your sexual partner.
Now that flowers are beginning to blossom, gardens cultivated, seeds scattered, it’s an apropos time to sow your own spiritual garden by exploring a new relationship or transporting your current involvement to a richer, more intimate stage.
Spring is an opportunity for personal rejuvenation and transformation. Spring cleaning isn’t just casting off winter clothes, rearranging closets, getting rid of unnecessary items. It’s a marvelous occasion to thrust aside worn out behaviors and habits that interfere with your ambitions.
What toxic associations have you been holding onto, dreading loneliness, convinced no one else will find you appealing? Review your romantic and platonic friendships. Which no longer serve you or make you feel insignificant? Which are based on exploitation, manipulation, criticism?
Apply the spring cleaning stance to other important areas, i.e. private, cherished, and professional contacts. Ensure that whomever you hang out with uplifts and validates your competence and luminosity.
Do your liaisons bring out the best or the worst in you? If the latter, separate, move on, and liberate them with blessings, knowing you’ve learned from the interaction.
Treat yourself to a spring cleaning physically, financially, mentally, and intellectually. What have you yearned to do or be for ions? How would you like to change internally and externally? You can reprogram your psyche with a fresh, pure posture, an untarnished outlook, a positive point of view.
Discard old perceptions and negative notions. Eliminate limiting lists of lover requirements, especially if narrow parameters have hindered progress in attracting the complete package.
Start from scratch with an empty page. Write down the good and bad traits of the man/woman you’re communing with. What you have is what you need to lead you on your path to a higher consciousness.
If your goal is to seek Mr./Ms. Right, abandon the winter of your discontent and commence to circulate once again. Love won’t miraculously appear at your front door. Go back to the basics, rereading previous Single in Studio City columns re: “Spotting Singles” and “How to Strike Up a Conversation.”
Recognize that you get from your endeavors what you put into them. As in any ardent enterprise, it behooves you to jump in full throttle ahead, giving 100% to your individual growth.
Pursuing a ‘happily ever after,’ requires devotion, dedication, and perseverance in building and rebuilding confidence and esteem. It’s an around the clock commitment, extremely worth the effort in the end.
Stay focused on the process and let go of the results. Just because you’ve been disappointed before doesn’t mean you have to continue with an identical pattern. You can break the cycle by choosing to maintain an attitude of gratitude.
When you feel empty and defeated, fill your emotional well with support and guidance from nurturing companions and cohorts. It’s not the quantity of your social circle that matters but the quality of those close to you. Remove the weeds that attempt to sabotage and prevent your affiliations from flourishing to the max.
Your thoughts control your actions. If you believe you can you can. If you believe you can’t, you can’t.
Greet this spring by satiating your mind and milieu with brightness, laughter, creativity, beautiful colors and scents. Discover the world of nature that surrounds you. Smell the roses. Revel in the splendor of our planet. Smile at everyone you meet, i.e. neighbors, co-workers, the mail delivery person, checkout clerk, bank teller.
Singles Slogan for today: I can have and be anything I crave. Nothing is out of reach in this awesome universe. I aspire to a purpose above and beyond expectations. I merit whatever I visualize. My hopes are now reality.
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Plan ahead for these incredible events:
On Monday, March 26th, 10p-1a, expert saxophonist Jerry Vivino (The Max Weinberg 7) brings his brilliance to the Oyster House for a special free show. He’s a mesmerizing and vibrant performer who will have you rockin’ out in your seat, a musical master who will wow you from beginning to end of every number.
If you’re lucky, Vivino will enchant you with dancing, twirling, or playing tenor, soprano, and flute in one song. A compelling virtuoso, you’re guaranteed to be inspired by his genius.
Jerry will be backed by a talented ensemble including: astounding pianist Andy Langham, remarkable upright bassist Mike Merritt, and outstanding drummer James Wormworth. Don’t miss this impressive group in a cozy, friendly venue. Grab your date, bff, or come solo and celebrate your spring awakening.
On Wednesday, March 28th, Dr. Dan Blechman is hosting his premiere party in the Valley at Caberet Teharan, 16101 Ventura Blvd., Encino, 91436. Festivities get underway at 7p with complimentary appetizers and drinks at half price, until 8pm!
Then you’re free to mix and mingle and happen upon ‘the one.’ Do you have faith in love at first sight, catching her/his eye across a crowded room? This is the precise place to locate your ideal ‘10.’ Spread the word and rejoice in your spring renewal.