Single in Studio City: Cooking Up the Perfect Partner

This concept is explored in the recent movie, Ruby Sparks, starring real life couple Zoe Kazan and Paul Dano. 

Adhering to a similar scenario, your fabricated paramour would succumb to your instant command, amenable to whatever wish you invoke. You’d never have to worry they’d cheat on you, unless it was your preference.

They’d fawn over you day and night, in line with your hankering. They’d aim to please and satisfy you anyway, anyhow, anytime, whenever and wherever the spirit moved you. They’d never tell you no, unless you programmed them to do so.

It would be possible to transform their body to suit your desires, creating a model of the ideal prince/princess charming you crave. That would include physical features from head to toe as well as personality traits, e.g. shy, gregarious, smart, funny, sexy, sensual.

Your invention, if you chose, wouldn’t feel angry, sad, scared, frustrated, irritated, disappointed, or guilty. He/she could presumably be happy and optimistic, laughing and smiling, no matter what you did or didn’t do, said or didn’t say.

You could prevent them from pining for anyone else or leaving your side 24/7. If you wanted space, you’d send them away for as long as you implored.

This may sound exciting and fulfilling at first glance but in reality would it be gratifying and rewarding? Ponder whether perhaps it might be boring to have a robot-like person following you around like a puppy dog, wagging their tail into the wee hours.

It could conceivably result in a lonely existence, albeit you’re a pair, as essentially, there’s only a single contributor. Would you miss the bliss of interacting with someone who has a mind of their own, with whom you could reflect ideas off of?

Although occasionally difficult to accept, do you covet constructive criticism from a trustworthy mate, who has your back and knows you profoundly and deeply? What about the benefits of an intimate union with an equal who’s dedicated to facilitating your evolvement for your highest good?

When you’re not being called on your behavior, you don’t have to be responsible for your conduct, especially if it’s unloving, uncaring, and unkind. Yet isn’t that the bonus and blessing of involvement in a meaningful connection, i.e. discovering and practicing how to treat others with compassion, gentleness, humanity, and benevolence?

Consider the concept that what bothers you the most about a close confidante is exactly the area you need to discern in your personal makeup. When one finger is pointed towards another, three are pointed back at you.  

Recollect that if your purpose is to heal internal issues, e.g. childhood abandonment traumas, jealousy, worthlessness, a committed relationship is a significant step towards that goal.

Love brings up everything unlike itself. In fact, it frequently opens up a Pandora’s box of negative aspects that may have been lying dormant for years.

Take into account the power of mistakes that help you gain insight and wisdom. Without them, how would you learn the invaluable lessons available through trial and error and lifting yourself up after falling down?

Reflect on the beauty of flaws that make individuals unique. Without them, would you be allured, captivated, and fascinated by the eccentricities, quirkiness, exceptional, and distinctive qualities you quickly grow to adore, and admire?

Even if you could devise a superlative boyfriend/girlfriend, you’d still be the constant. Hence, if you haven’t done the internal work, your psychological wiring would once again emerge to sabotage the dream.

Which brings me to the premise, are we meant to be monogamous? Is there such a thing as “happily ever after?” Is it advantageous to hook up for life or are there seemingly insurmountable drawbacks, making casual sex the more attractive proposition?

Is lovemaking for fun and for free plausible in the 21st century with the onslaught of STD’s? How do you keep emotions from the equation? Spontaneous intercourse can be electrifying and exhilarating, especially when you don’t have to worry about future ramifications.

However, very few duos can carry off this feat for extended periods, since one party typically becomes more invested than the other. When sentiments don’t remain mutual, unrequited feelings make the situation complicated, causing expectations and mandates. 

To successfully pull off an informal romantic tie without demands, requires both participants to be extremely independent, mature, forthcoming, self-confident, and secure within themselves. Inevitably, either member may develop yearnings that destroy the original foundation of uninhibited and unrestricted rapture and ecstasy.

Singles Slogan for the Week: Remember why the grass always looks greener on the other side...because they have more shit.

Spend this coming Friday evening, August 24th, 9pm-1am, rocking out to the music of Little Fox Records’ Donald Dean Band, at Sportsmen’s Lodge new River Rock Lounge. No cover charge, late night bar menu, 10pm-12 M. Eat, dance, drink, and mingle.

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